Dear Aling Dionisya,
My ex and I broke up 8 months ago due to our differences and trust issues. But it's too personal so I don't want to elaborate more about our relationship and our break up. However, even though she and I broke up the communication between the two of us have always remain strong. As a matter of fact, we've been hanging out a lot for the last month. On the other hand, she made it clear that were not getting back together that its purely friendship, also the fact that she's already dating somebody else. She claims that she has strong feelings for him, I really want her back, but I'm so clueless on how to do it... What should I do???
Leon
Dear Leon,
Ewwwyo parang mantil ... It's plain obvious what she wants ... One thing you should ask yourself, why would you try and fight for someone who doesn't feel the same way you do ... Worst of it all she have move on leaving you behind ... This whole hanging out as friends is not going to work out for both of you at least not at this moment. It's so clear that your so attached to her, that you fear that if you completely let go of her you would be nothing. You have to realize that your the most important person in your life and that your own happiness should be your number one priority and not her nor anybody else. Let her go ... she has someone in her life now and she bluntly and repeatedly told you "SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU BACK!" Have some self respect and stop trying to win her back. She's aware of what you feel, so if she ever change her mind she knows where to find you ... Don't put your life on hold over some girl it's not worth it. Stop torturing yourself with the whole sleepover bullshit. YOU WANT TO WIN HER BACK MAYBE THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO MAKE YOUR SELF SCARCE, MAYBE THEN THAT'S THE ONLY CHANGE YOU HAVE WITH HER. STOP ACTING LIKE A PUPPY WAITING FOR HER TO PLAY WITH YOU!!!
ALING DIONISYA
Friday, December 18, 2009
Monday, December 14, 2009
I LOVE YOU GOODBYE
Dear Aling Dionisya,
Just call me Kiray, my family and i are based here in Mexico just like any typical Filipino i'm a nursing student. But that's not the reason why i wrote you a letter. Kaya po ako sumulat sa inyo kasi po in love po ako sa kababata ang kaso po nasa Los Angeles sya. Pero hindi naman po yan ang problem ang problema po ay may girlfriend sya at live in pa sila. Pero sabi naman po nya ay matagal ng gusto nyang humiwalay sa girl ang kaso po lagi po syang tinatakot ng girl na sya po ay magpapakamatay kung iiwanan nya. Pero sabi nya po sakin mahal na mahal nya daw po ako pero malabo raw po kaming maging kami dahil nga po hindi nya raw po kayang iwanan yong girl kasi natatakot sya sa pede nyang gawin. Ano po ang gagawin ko? Sinubukan napo namin na tumigil muna sa pag uusap pero wala rin po we broke our little deal. Gusto ko po syang ipaglaban pero i don't know. What should I do?
Kiray
Dear Kiray,
Ewwwyo parang mantil ... alam mo ewan ko ba kung bakit ang mga babae ngayon sobrang TANGA na when it comes sa love. At hindi ko rin maintindihan kung bakit karamihan satin eh attracted sa mga lalaking taken na, alam naman natin na mali pero sige go pa rin tayo. Sa situation mo lalaki na mesmo ang nag sasabi na layuan mo muna sya, na hayaan mo syang eresolve problema nya. Which is tama naman you should be thankful na you found a guy like that. Kasi kung ibang lalaki yan hay naku kawawa ka. One thing you should always keep in mind is never allow a man treat you like your NUMBER 2 dapat parang mail ka, laging mail priority!!! Kiray matutu kang mag paraya, he sounds like a nice decent man, gentleman, romantic, etc pero that whole package doesn't matter coz his with somebody. How would you feel if your in that girl position, my isang bimbo trying to take your man away from you kahit ikaw diba maloloka. Just like the old saying if you love someone set them free if they come back to you then it's yours forever, but if it doesn't then it was never meant to be yours from the beginning. Just like what i said mag paraya ka, ikaw rin mahirap kalaban ang KARMA!!! Kung gusto mo rin ipaglaban sya nasayo yan, pero right now wala sayo ang alas talo kapa rin. Only time will tell kung para kayo talaga sa isa't isa and if this lifetime hindi kayo meant to be who knows maybe in another lifetime eh maging kayo ... FINDING THE RIGHT LOVE MEANS BEING PATIENT ...
ALING DIONISYA
Friday, December 11, 2009
GOODBYE
Dear Aling Dionisya,
One last try ... One last cry ... is what i'm going through at the moment. We both did our best, but i guess it wasn't good enough, because we didn't prevail. It was a mutual decision when we decided to part ways, but still it was painful to bare.
Ryan
DEAR RYAN,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL ... I'M SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND BROKE UP. BUT YOU KNOW THE OLD SAYING IS WHEN ONE DOOR CLOSES ANOTHER DOOR WILL OPEN. BUT I'M NOT SAYING YOU JUMP INTO THAT NEW DOOR RIGHT AWAY, TAKE YOUR TIME ALLOW YOUR HEART TO HEAL, YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT. JUST KEEP YOURSELF OCCUPY WATCH A MOVIE, HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS, I WILL SUGGEST GO OUT AND GET DRUNK WHICH NORMALLY THAT'S WHAT EVERY ONE WOULD DO. BUT AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE TRY TO AVOID DRINKING BECAUSE IT WILL MAKE YOU NUMB AT THAT MOMENT BUT THE FOLLOWING DAY THE PROBLEM IS RIGHT THERE STARING AT YOU AGAIN ...
ALING DIONISYA
One last try ... One last cry ... is what i'm going through at the moment. We both did our best, but i guess it wasn't good enough, because we didn't prevail. It was a mutual decision when we decided to part ways, but still it was painful to bare.
Ryan
DEAR RYAN,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL ... I'M SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND BROKE UP. BUT YOU KNOW THE OLD SAYING IS WHEN ONE DOOR CLOSES ANOTHER DOOR WILL OPEN. BUT I'M NOT SAYING YOU JUMP INTO THAT NEW DOOR RIGHT AWAY, TAKE YOUR TIME ALLOW YOUR HEART TO HEAL, YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT. JUST KEEP YOURSELF OCCUPY WATCH A MOVIE, HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS, I WILL SUGGEST GO OUT AND GET DRUNK WHICH NORMALLY THAT'S WHAT EVERY ONE WOULD DO. BUT AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE TRY TO AVOID DRINKING BECAUSE IT WILL MAKE YOU NUMB AT THAT MOMENT BUT THE FOLLOWING DAY THE PROBLEM IS RIGHT THERE STARING AT YOU AGAIN ...
ALING DIONISYA
LOVERS TO FRIENDS
Dear Aling Dionisya,
My name is Christina, kaya po ako sumulat sa inyo kasi my syota po akung babae pangalan nya po ay Jackie. Kakasimula pa lang po ng relation naming hindi pa nga higit na isang taon, pero sa tingin ko po walang patutunguhan tong relation naming at mag tatapos din kagad. Kasi po yong ex girlfriend nya ay umaaligid pa rin hanggang ngayon, umaasa na mag kakabalikan pa silang dalawa ni Jackie. Pero imposible naman pong mangyari yon kasi nga po kami na ni Jackie. Simula’t sa una aware na po ako sa situation nya, ngunit nung naging kami po umasa po ako na may magbabago. Pero hanggang ngayon po wala pa rin bago ganun pa rin po ang set up, pa minsan minsan lang kami nag kikita at ngayon nga po eh madalang na kami mag usap kasi nga po lagi nyang kasama yong ex girlfriend nya. Ang masama pa dun wala pong kaalam alam yong ex girlfriend nya na kami na. Tapos ayaw naman po nyang ipaalam sa ex girlfriend nya kasi ayaw raw po nyang masaktan ito. Pero panu naman po ako nasasaktan din ako, can you help me?
Christina
Dear Christina,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL … YOU’RE IN A VERY THORNY AND FRAIL STATE RIGHT NOW, BUT THEN AGAIN ANSWERS ARE RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU. YOU GOT TWO CHOICES TO BE MADE YOU EITHER PUT UP WITH IT OR YOU SIT IT OUT UNTIL SHE SOLVES IT. IT’S BEEN A DEBATE FOR YEARS AND YEARS WHETHER OR NOT SHOULD EX LOVERS BE FRIENDS. JUST SAYING THE WORD “SHOULD” IT SOUNDS LIKE AN OBLIGATION. IF THAT’S THE CASE THEN THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION IS NO! I THINK THAT THERE SHOULD BE RULE SOMEWHERE, WERE IT’S ILLEGAL FOR AN EX LOVERS TO BE FRIENDS. BUT THEN AGAIN A LOT OF PEOPLE DON’T ABIDE TO THAT RULES, IF THAT IS THE CASE THEN PEOPLE OUGHT TO ENSUE WITH CAREFULNESS AND ON TOP OF THAT THEY SHOULD BE FRANK WITH THEMSELVES AS TO THE SPUR AND PRINCIPLE BEHIND THE FRIENDSHIP.
HOWEVER, ON YOUR CASE YOU ARE AWARE THAT THE EX IS CLEAR WITH HER INTENTIONS WHY SHE STILL WANT TO BEFRIEND YOUR GIRLFRIEND. THIS WHOLE EX GIRLFRIEND OR BOYFRIEND BULL SHIT DO HAPPENS TO SO MANY OF US. MOST OF THE TIME THE END RESULT IS STIRN OF AGONY, BUT IN THE END THE WAY OUT IS QUITE SIMPLE.
WITHOUT BELITTLING YOUR WOMAN THEORITICALLY I THINK SHE LOVES YOU AND THERE’S FAITHFULNESS INVOLVE BECAUSE SHE’S MAKING YOU AWARE OF WHAT IS GOING ON. ON THE OTHER HAND, IF YOUR WOMAN BELIEVES THAT SHE’S OBLIGATED TO MANAGE AND GO THE RIGHT WAY BY BEING FRIENDS WITH HER, THEN IT JUST PROVES THAT YOUR WOMAN DON’T HAVE A SPINE ON HER BONE AT ALL.
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE A PEACE OF MIND, SO BE TRUE TO JACKIE AND TELL HER THAT “SA PAG IBIG ANG PONDASYON AT KAGANDAHAN LIES BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE AND NOT A THIRD PERSON. IF SHE CAN’T RESPECT THAT THEN MAYBE ITS TIME FOR YOU TO MOVE ON. THAT’S THE BEUTY OF BEING A HUMAN BEING WE ALL HAVE CHOICES AND SOMETIMES MOST OF US WILL FORGET THAT …
ALING DIONISYA
My name is Christina, kaya po ako sumulat sa inyo kasi my syota po akung babae pangalan nya po ay Jackie. Kakasimula pa lang po ng relation naming hindi pa nga higit na isang taon, pero sa tingin ko po walang patutunguhan tong relation naming at mag tatapos din kagad. Kasi po yong ex girlfriend nya ay umaaligid pa rin hanggang ngayon, umaasa na mag kakabalikan pa silang dalawa ni Jackie. Pero imposible naman pong mangyari yon kasi nga po kami na ni Jackie. Simula’t sa una aware na po ako sa situation nya, ngunit nung naging kami po umasa po ako na may magbabago. Pero hanggang ngayon po wala pa rin bago ganun pa rin po ang set up, pa minsan minsan lang kami nag kikita at ngayon nga po eh madalang na kami mag usap kasi nga po lagi nyang kasama yong ex girlfriend nya. Ang masama pa dun wala pong kaalam alam yong ex girlfriend nya na kami na. Tapos ayaw naman po nyang ipaalam sa ex girlfriend nya kasi ayaw raw po nyang masaktan ito. Pero panu naman po ako nasasaktan din ako, can you help me?
Christina
Dear Christina,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL … YOU’RE IN A VERY THORNY AND FRAIL STATE RIGHT NOW, BUT THEN AGAIN ANSWERS ARE RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU. YOU GOT TWO CHOICES TO BE MADE YOU EITHER PUT UP WITH IT OR YOU SIT IT OUT UNTIL SHE SOLVES IT. IT’S BEEN A DEBATE FOR YEARS AND YEARS WHETHER OR NOT SHOULD EX LOVERS BE FRIENDS. JUST SAYING THE WORD “SHOULD” IT SOUNDS LIKE AN OBLIGATION. IF THAT’S THE CASE THEN THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION IS NO! I THINK THAT THERE SHOULD BE RULE SOMEWHERE, WERE IT’S ILLEGAL FOR AN EX LOVERS TO BE FRIENDS. BUT THEN AGAIN A LOT OF PEOPLE DON’T ABIDE TO THAT RULES, IF THAT IS THE CASE THEN PEOPLE OUGHT TO ENSUE WITH CAREFULNESS AND ON TOP OF THAT THEY SHOULD BE FRANK WITH THEMSELVES AS TO THE SPUR AND PRINCIPLE BEHIND THE FRIENDSHIP.
HOWEVER, ON YOUR CASE YOU ARE AWARE THAT THE EX IS CLEAR WITH HER INTENTIONS WHY SHE STILL WANT TO BEFRIEND YOUR GIRLFRIEND. THIS WHOLE EX GIRLFRIEND OR BOYFRIEND BULL SHIT DO HAPPENS TO SO MANY OF US. MOST OF THE TIME THE END RESULT IS STIRN OF AGONY, BUT IN THE END THE WAY OUT IS QUITE SIMPLE.
WITHOUT BELITTLING YOUR WOMAN THEORITICALLY I THINK SHE LOVES YOU AND THERE’S FAITHFULNESS INVOLVE BECAUSE SHE’S MAKING YOU AWARE OF WHAT IS GOING ON. ON THE OTHER HAND, IF YOUR WOMAN BELIEVES THAT SHE’S OBLIGATED TO MANAGE AND GO THE RIGHT WAY BY BEING FRIENDS WITH HER, THEN IT JUST PROVES THAT YOUR WOMAN DON’T HAVE A SPINE ON HER BONE AT ALL.
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE A PEACE OF MIND, SO BE TRUE TO JACKIE AND TELL HER THAT “SA PAG IBIG ANG PONDASYON AT KAGANDAHAN LIES BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE AND NOT A THIRD PERSON. IF SHE CAN’T RESPECT THAT THEN MAYBE ITS TIME FOR YOU TO MOVE ON. THAT’S THE BEUTY OF BEING A HUMAN BEING WE ALL HAVE CHOICES AND SOMETIMES MOST OF US WILL FORGET THAT …
ALING DIONISYA
Thursday, December 10, 2009
LOVE TRIANGLE
Dear Aling Dionisya,
I’m involve with someone at the moment, Liz and I been dating relatively 6 years now. Just like every normal couple we have our own little pity fights here and there. But that is not the issue. The problem is an old ex girlfriend of mine from way back is coming back. Her family decided to migrate in Australia. I haven’t seen her nor talk to her ever since she left. Our goodbye was a bittersweet end because we both still love each other that time, but since we were young long distance relationship was not an option.
Just a few days ago I received a phone call from an unknown caller and it turns out it was her on the other line, stating that she’s back. The conversation was very brief, however, during those 10 minutes talk I felt that certain unexplainable feeling inside. (AND NO ITS NOT AN ERRECTION OR SOME SORT). I just feared to the idea of what if all this time I still love her, that during the times that she was gone my feelings for her just subsided. And now that she’s back it seems as though its emerging again. Aling Dionisya what should I do?
DEAR LEO,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL!!! IT SEEMS AS THOUGH YOUR INVOLVE IN A LITTLE LOVE TRIANGLE. WELL MAYBE NOT YET BUT YOUR SURELY HEADING THAT PATH. NOT UNLESS YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT IS IT THAT YOU REALLY WANT. I THINK WHAT YOUR EXPERIENCING IS THE I MISS YOU SYNDROME… YOU HAVEN’T SEEN HER FOR SO LONG, YOUR WONDERING WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE NOW THOSE KINDS OF THINGS. YOU WOULDN’T REALLY KNOW THE ANSWER TILL YOU MEET UP WITH HER AND YOU SEE HER AND PERSON. I SAY JUST TRY TO IGNORE IT BECAUSE MAYBE WHATEVER YOUR FEELING ARE JUST LEFT OVERS LOL!!! YOU GOT GREAT THINGS GOING ON BETWEEN YOU AND LIZ… DON’T ALLOW A DOUBT GET IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!
NOW WHAT COULD HAPPEN WHEN YOU TWO MEET UP? WELL THERE’S THE POSSIBILITY THAT SHE MIGHT WANT YOU BACK, THE QUESTION IS WILL YOU BE STRAIGHT UP WITH HER AND SAY THAT YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND?
HONESTY, IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY!!! YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HER, YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND, AND ABOVE ALL YOU NEED TO BE HONEST TO YOURSELF. THE LAST THING THAT YOU WANT TO HAPPEN TO YOU IS END UP WITH NEITHER NONE OF THEM!!!
ALING DIONISYA
I’m involve with someone at the moment, Liz and I been dating relatively 6 years now. Just like every normal couple we have our own little pity fights here and there. But that is not the issue. The problem is an old ex girlfriend of mine from way back is coming back. Her family decided to migrate in Australia. I haven’t seen her nor talk to her ever since she left. Our goodbye was a bittersweet end because we both still love each other that time, but since we were young long distance relationship was not an option.
Just a few days ago I received a phone call from an unknown caller and it turns out it was her on the other line, stating that she’s back. The conversation was very brief, however, during those 10 minutes talk I felt that certain unexplainable feeling inside. (AND NO ITS NOT AN ERRECTION OR SOME SORT). I just feared to the idea of what if all this time I still love her, that during the times that she was gone my feelings for her just subsided. And now that she’s back it seems as though its emerging again. Aling Dionisya what should I do?
DEAR LEO,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL!!! IT SEEMS AS THOUGH YOUR INVOLVE IN A LITTLE LOVE TRIANGLE. WELL MAYBE NOT YET BUT YOUR SURELY HEADING THAT PATH. NOT UNLESS YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT IS IT THAT YOU REALLY WANT. I THINK WHAT YOUR EXPERIENCING IS THE I MISS YOU SYNDROME… YOU HAVEN’T SEEN HER FOR SO LONG, YOUR WONDERING WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE NOW THOSE KINDS OF THINGS. YOU WOULDN’T REALLY KNOW THE ANSWER TILL YOU MEET UP WITH HER AND YOU SEE HER AND PERSON. I SAY JUST TRY TO IGNORE IT BECAUSE MAYBE WHATEVER YOUR FEELING ARE JUST LEFT OVERS LOL!!! YOU GOT GREAT THINGS GOING ON BETWEEN YOU AND LIZ… DON’T ALLOW A DOUBT GET IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!
NOW WHAT COULD HAPPEN WHEN YOU TWO MEET UP? WELL THERE’S THE POSSIBILITY THAT SHE MIGHT WANT YOU BACK, THE QUESTION IS WILL YOU BE STRAIGHT UP WITH HER AND SAY THAT YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND?
HONESTY, IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY!!! YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HER, YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND, AND ABOVE ALL YOU NEED TO BE HONEST TO YOURSELF. THE LAST THING THAT YOU WANT TO HAPPEN TO YOU IS END UP WITH NEITHER NONE OF THEM!!!
ALING DIONISYA
FAREWELL TO YOU MY FRIENDS
Dear Aling Dionisya,
I’m what you call Ms. Friendship … I enjoy meeting a lot of people and making new friends as well. But lately, I haven’t been the same; I started being remote towards them. For what reason, well I myself can’t even answer that. The only thing that is registering in my head right now is I felt used. What made me draw to that conclusion, most of the time, but not every single time people would come to me when they have issues. When they need to lash out their emotions, anger, or need a favor. Any situation whether its related to their bf/gf or friendship issues. However, when everything is okay they don’t seem to remember me. Now tell me Aling Dionisya am I just over acting or this feeling that I have is justifiable?
Ms. Friendship
DEAR MS. FRIENSHIP,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL!!! IT’S QUITE ASHAMED THAT YOU FEEL THAT WAY TOWARDS YOUR FRIENDS. ALSO, IT’S FAIRLY SAD THAT YOU FRIENDS ARE GIVING YOU THAT REASON TO FEEL THAT WAY. YOU MAY OR MAY NOT BE OVERREACTING, I MEAN THERE MUST BE A LOGICAL EXPLANATION WHY YOU THOUGHT THAT WAY. EVERY NOW AND THEN WE ALL NEED A LITTLE SPACE FROM ONE ANOTHER SPECIFICALLY WHEN ONE IS ALREADY GETTING SUFFUCATED IN THE RELATIONSHIP. AND MAYBE THAT IS WHAT YOU NEED. HOWEVER, SOMETIMES WE ALL HAVE TO ADMIT THAT WE HAVE A FEW SO-CALLED FRIENDS THAT WE KEEP IN OUR INNER CIRCLE FOR WHAT? WE MAY NEVER KNOW THE ANSWER BUT THEY’RE THERE AND NOW YOU HAD ENOUGH …
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS TO BREAK AWAY FROM FRIENDS WITHOUT DRAMA. AND THAT IS DISTANT! IT MIGHT APPEAR, UNKIND NEVERTHELESS SECLUDING YOURSELF FROM FRIENDS IS FREQUENTLY THE MOST EFFECLECTUAL IN ENDING ANY AFFILIATION, AND IS RATHER DRAMA FREE. NOW WHAT IF IT DOESN’T WORK? ON THOSE CIRCUMSTANCES ALLOW THEM TO BRING UP THE CASE TO YOU. GIVE THEM THE RIGHT TO ASK QUESTION, THEN TELL THEM YOUR SITUATION WHY YOUR BEING ALOOF TO THEM. IF THEY STILL DON’T GET IT AND THEY CAN’T RESPECT YOUR FEELING, THAT CONCLUDES THAT YOU MADE THE RIGHTFUL DECISION AND YOU SHOULDN’T FEEL BAD.
FREQUENTLY, BREAKUPS CAN BE VERY POIGNANT; ON THE OTHER HAND THEY DON’T HAVE TO BE SOMEWHAT SO BAD AS LONG AS YOUR VERY FIRM WITH YOUR CHOICE. DON’T COMPLY WITH ANY UNJUST BEHAVIOR THAT YOUR FRIENDS WILL GIVE YOU. ITS YOUR LIFE TO LIVE AND YOU MUST NOT COMPROMISE YOUR OWN PLEASURE FOR THE SAKE OF OTHER PEOPLE WHICH MOST CERTAINLY ARE NOT FOND OF YOU ANY LONGER. IT’S AN ACTUALITY OF LIFE, OCCASIONALY FRIENDS GROW APART, AND SOMETIMES A BREAK UP IS FORSEEABLE.
BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO, BUT KEEP IN MIND EVERYONE WILL HAVE TO SAY ADIEU TO SOMEONE AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIFE.
I’m what you call Ms. Friendship … I enjoy meeting a lot of people and making new friends as well. But lately, I haven’t been the same; I started being remote towards them. For what reason, well I myself can’t even answer that. The only thing that is registering in my head right now is I felt used. What made me draw to that conclusion, most of the time, but not every single time people would come to me when they have issues. When they need to lash out their emotions, anger, or need a favor. Any situation whether its related to their bf/gf or friendship issues. However, when everything is okay they don’t seem to remember me. Now tell me Aling Dionisya am I just over acting or this feeling that I have is justifiable?
Ms. Friendship
DEAR MS. FRIENSHIP,
EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL!!! IT’S QUITE ASHAMED THAT YOU FEEL THAT WAY TOWARDS YOUR FRIENDS. ALSO, IT’S FAIRLY SAD THAT YOU FRIENDS ARE GIVING YOU THAT REASON TO FEEL THAT WAY. YOU MAY OR MAY NOT BE OVERREACTING, I MEAN THERE MUST BE A LOGICAL EXPLANATION WHY YOU THOUGHT THAT WAY. EVERY NOW AND THEN WE ALL NEED A LITTLE SPACE FROM ONE ANOTHER SPECIFICALLY WHEN ONE IS ALREADY GETTING SUFFUCATED IN THE RELATIONSHIP. AND MAYBE THAT IS WHAT YOU NEED. HOWEVER, SOMETIMES WE ALL HAVE TO ADMIT THAT WE HAVE A FEW SO-CALLED FRIENDS THAT WE KEEP IN OUR INNER CIRCLE FOR WHAT? WE MAY NEVER KNOW THE ANSWER BUT THEY’RE THERE AND NOW YOU HAD ENOUGH …
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS TO BREAK AWAY FROM FRIENDS WITHOUT DRAMA. AND THAT IS DISTANT! IT MIGHT APPEAR, UNKIND NEVERTHELESS SECLUDING YOURSELF FROM FRIENDS IS FREQUENTLY THE MOST EFFECLECTUAL IN ENDING ANY AFFILIATION, AND IS RATHER DRAMA FREE. NOW WHAT IF IT DOESN’T WORK? ON THOSE CIRCUMSTANCES ALLOW THEM TO BRING UP THE CASE TO YOU. GIVE THEM THE RIGHT TO ASK QUESTION, THEN TELL THEM YOUR SITUATION WHY YOUR BEING ALOOF TO THEM. IF THEY STILL DON’T GET IT AND THEY CAN’T RESPECT YOUR FEELING, THAT CONCLUDES THAT YOU MADE THE RIGHTFUL DECISION AND YOU SHOULDN’T FEEL BAD.
FREQUENTLY, BREAKUPS CAN BE VERY POIGNANT; ON THE OTHER HAND THEY DON’T HAVE TO BE SOMEWHAT SO BAD AS LONG AS YOUR VERY FIRM WITH YOUR CHOICE. DON’T COMPLY WITH ANY UNJUST BEHAVIOR THAT YOUR FRIENDS WILL GIVE YOU. ITS YOUR LIFE TO LIVE AND YOU MUST NOT COMPROMISE YOUR OWN PLEASURE FOR THE SAKE OF OTHER PEOPLE WHICH MOST CERTAINLY ARE NOT FOND OF YOU ANY LONGER. IT’S AN ACTUALITY OF LIFE, OCCASIONALY FRIENDS GROW APART, AND SOMETIMES A BREAK UP IS FORSEEABLE.
BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO, BUT KEEP IN MIND EVERYONE WILL HAVE TO SAY ADIEU TO SOMEONE AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIFE.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
DON'T GIVE UP ON US....
Dear Aling Dionisya,
“When will the tears stop from falling? When will this place be filled with peace and quite again? When will happiness overcome such sadness? And where is that love that you promised?” Courtesty of facebook.
Ms. Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
EWWYO PARANG MANTIL!!! Such sorrow that you’re going through, perhaps or I’m going to assume that you’re married? I’m sure your parents or someone older than you once told you this that “ang pag aasawa hindi parang kanin na pag napaso iluluwa.” I think this saying is certainly not a good message to say to someone whose getting married or who just got married. Ang tamang sabihin dapat ay ang pag aasawa ay higit pa sa mag boyfriend or girlfriend dahil dapat mahalin mo siya kung ano siya at kung sino siya hindi mo dapat plano na baguhin kung sino sya at dapat maging handa ka sa mga bagay na matutuklasan mo pa sakanya. The reason why I’m telling you this is 85% of people marry other people not being open on changes that will happen and what they will find out. Remember it only takes a matter of second to say I LOVE YOU OR WILL YOU MARRY ME, but it takes more than your whole life knowing each other. But what I just said right now some may apply to you and some may not, however I just put that in for those who are thinking of getting married.
Alam mo anonymous being married is not a joke it’s a lifetime commitment and responsibility. It’s like you being imprisoned in each other’s arms for life without the possibility of parole. Your whole lifestyle that your so accustomed too will change. Your responsibility and role as a wife and a mother from cleaning the house, preparing food, cooking, washing dishes, managing the laundry, handling bills and finances. In addition, you also have to shift to the needs of your husband, accompanying him and even waiting for him till he arrives. Since, this is not the 50’s anymore I’m quite sure you’re a career woman so you also need to tend to that. And upon reading your shout out I think that your starting to have doubts, uncertainty and giving up if all of this is worth it. Each and every day you will unveil a lot of questions that will hinder your thoughts. But its OK don’t panic it’s’ a normal adjustment that most wives normally encounter during their first year of marriage.
To end this… Kaya nyo yang mag asawa pag usapan nyo COMMUNICATION has always been the Key for a success relationship. Just a little advice whatever is going on between you and your husband should just be kept between the two of you. As much as, possible try to avoid involving your friends or relatives on this type of matter. Because often, people try to judge because they only hear one side of the story and they don’t bother asking for the one. The less people involve the sooner your problem will be resolved!!!
THAT’S WHY FOR THOSE WHO ARE PLANNING ON GETTING MARRIED SOON ALL I CAN SAY IS THINK IT OVER AND OVER. DON’T RUSHED BEING MARRIED IS NOT A JOKE!!! DON’T PAY ATTENTION IF YOUR PARENTS ARE PRESSURING YOU ON GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE YOUR NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER, THAT’S THERE WAY OF SAYING YOU NEED TO MOVE OUT LOL!!! OR DON’T LET YOUR AGE BOTHER’S YOU OR THE YEARS THAT THE TWO OF YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER. REMEMBER FOLKS MARRIED LIFE AND BEING A BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS!!!
P.S. DON’T PORGET TO DRENK YOUR MELK!!!
ALING DIONISYA
“When will the tears stop from falling? When will this place be filled with peace and quite again? When will happiness overcome such sadness? And where is that love that you promised?” Courtesty of facebook.
Ms. Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
EWWYO PARANG MANTIL!!! Such sorrow that you’re going through, perhaps or I’m going to assume that you’re married? I’m sure your parents or someone older than you once told you this that “ang pag aasawa hindi parang kanin na pag napaso iluluwa.” I think this saying is certainly not a good message to say to someone whose getting married or who just got married. Ang tamang sabihin dapat ay ang pag aasawa ay higit pa sa mag boyfriend or girlfriend dahil dapat mahalin mo siya kung ano siya at kung sino siya hindi mo dapat plano na baguhin kung sino sya at dapat maging handa ka sa mga bagay na matutuklasan mo pa sakanya. The reason why I’m telling you this is 85% of people marry other people not being open on changes that will happen and what they will find out. Remember it only takes a matter of second to say I LOVE YOU OR WILL YOU MARRY ME, but it takes more than your whole life knowing each other. But what I just said right now some may apply to you and some may not, however I just put that in for those who are thinking of getting married.
Alam mo anonymous being married is not a joke it’s a lifetime commitment and responsibility. It’s like you being imprisoned in each other’s arms for life without the possibility of parole. Your whole lifestyle that your so accustomed too will change. Your responsibility and role as a wife and a mother from cleaning the house, preparing food, cooking, washing dishes, managing the laundry, handling bills and finances. In addition, you also have to shift to the needs of your husband, accompanying him and even waiting for him till he arrives. Since, this is not the 50’s anymore I’m quite sure you’re a career woman so you also need to tend to that. And upon reading your shout out I think that your starting to have doubts, uncertainty and giving up if all of this is worth it. Each and every day you will unveil a lot of questions that will hinder your thoughts. But its OK don’t panic it’s’ a normal adjustment that most wives normally encounter during their first year of marriage.
To end this… Kaya nyo yang mag asawa pag usapan nyo COMMUNICATION has always been the Key for a success relationship. Just a little advice whatever is going on between you and your husband should just be kept between the two of you. As much as, possible try to avoid involving your friends or relatives on this type of matter. Because often, people try to judge because they only hear one side of the story and they don’t bother asking for the one. The less people involve the sooner your problem will be resolved!!!
THAT’S WHY FOR THOSE WHO ARE PLANNING ON GETTING MARRIED SOON ALL I CAN SAY IS THINK IT OVER AND OVER. DON’T RUSHED BEING MARRIED IS NOT A JOKE!!! DON’T PAY ATTENTION IF YOUR PARENTS ARE PRESSURING YOU ON GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE YOUR NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER, THAT’S THERE WAY OF SAYING YOU NEED TO MOVE OUT LOL!!! OR DON’T LET YOUR AGE BOTHER’S YOU OR THE YEARS THAT THE TWO OF YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER. REMEMBER FOLKS MARRIED LIFE AND BEING A BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS!!!
P.S. DON’T PORGET TO DRENK YOUR MELK!!!
ALING DIONISYA
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
HOPELESS IN LOVE
Dear Aling Dionisya,
Ang buhay ay parang bato its hard!!! lol!!! bakit po ganun 23 years old naku wala pa rin po akung boyfriend. Hindi naman po dahil sa pihikan ako sa lalaki, pero naniniwala po ako sa DESTINY, RIGHT MAN, AND RIGHT LOVE!!! Ano po ang gagawin ko para ma fast forward ang pagdating ng hindi ko pa nakikilalang bf!!!
Sincerely Yours,
Buwan
DEAR BUWAN,
EWWYOO PARANG MANTIL!!! ALAM MO IHA WALA NAMAN MASAMA NA MANIWALA KA SA DESTINY, SA RIGHT GUY, SA RIGHT LOVE, TAMA LANG YAN MAGHINTAY KA. PERO KUNG MINSAN DAPAT TAU NA RIN MISMO ANG GAGAWA NG PARAAN PARA MAHANAP NATIN YON. WAG KA MASYADO MANOOD NG SOAP OPERA OR TFC KC SCRIPTED LAHAT YAN. SA TOTOONG BUHAY HINDI GANYAN KADALI MAKAHANAP NG TAONG PARA SAYO. BATA KAPA YOU SHOULD TAKE YOUR TIME PERO DON'T TAKE TOO MUCH TIME BAKA MAYA NYA UUGOD UGOD KANA WALA KA PA RIN BF!!!
Ang buhay ay parang bato its hard!!! lol!!! bakit po ganun 23 years old naku wala pa rin po akung boyfriend. Hindi naman po dahil sa pihikan ako sa lalaki, pero naniniwala po ako sa DESTINY, RIGHT MAN, AND RIGHT LOVE!!! Ano po ang gagawin ko para ma fast forward ang pagdating ng hindi ko pa nakikilalang bf!!!
Sincerely Yours,
Buwan
DEAR BUWAN,
EWWYOO PARANG MANTIL!!! ALAM MO IHA WALA NAMAN MASAMA NA MANIWALA KA SA DESTINY, SA RIGHT GUY, SA RIGHT LOVE, TAMA LANG YAN MAGHINTAY KA. PERO KUNG MINSAN DAPAT TAU NA RIN MISMO ANG GAGAWA NG PARAAN PARA MAHANAP NATIN YON. WAG KA MASYADO MANOOD NG SOAP OPERA OR TFC KC SCRIPTED LAHAT YAN. SA TOTOONG BUHAY HINDI GANYAN KADALI MAKAHANAP NG TAONG PARA SAYO. BATA KAPA YOU SHOULD TAKE YOUR TIME PERO DON'T TAKE TOO MUCH TIME BAKA MAYA NYA UUGOD UGOD KANA WALA KA PA RIN BF!!!
BUKAS NA LANG KITA MAMAHALIN
DEAR ALING DIONISYA,
YOU CAN CALL ME CRACKENSIA, KAYA PO AKO NAG PADALA NG LIHAM SAYO KASI UMAASA PO AKUNG AKO AY INYONG MATUTULUNGAN SA AKING HINAGPIS SA BUHAY. IN LOVE PO KASI ANG LOLA NYO NGAYON. ANG KASO PO INVOLVE PO AKO SA LOVE TRIANGLE. ETO PO KASING LALAKI NA SINISIGAW NANG AKING PUSO EH KAIBIGAN PA RIN NYA ANG 1 WEEK NA EX GIRLFRIEND NYA. I KNOW RIGHT KALOKA DI HO BA 1 WEEK LANG SILA PERO I'M MAKING SUCH A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT. ALTHOUGH HINDI ALAM NG LALAKI NA NAAPEKTUHAN AKO KASI HINDI KO IPINAPAKITA. ANO HO BA ANG GAGAWIN KO.
DEAR CRACKENSIA,
EWWWYOO PARANG MANTIL... TO START OF I KNOW YOUR A SMART GIRL CRACKENSIA, PERO MY PAGKA OA KA AS IN OVER ACTING!!! YOU KNOW THE SAYING SOMETIMES LOVERS ARE BETTER OF AS FRIENDS, MAYBE KAYA SILANG DALAWA NAG HIWALAY DAHIL NA REALIZE NILANG HINDI SILA COMPATIBLE. ALTHOUGH, IT TAKES A WHILE BAGO ANG DALAWANG DATING NAGMAMAHALAN NA MAGING MAGKAIBIGAN KAGAD, ESPECIALLY KUNG MATAGAL NAGING SILA. PERO SA CASE MO NAMAN 1 WEEK LANG NAMAN NAGING SILA TAPOS UN KAYU NG DALAWA THEN WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT THEN! MAIINTINDIHAN KO PA KUNG NAGING MATAGAL SILA LIKE 3 YEARS SILA SA RELATION, THEN THAT YOU SHOULD WORRY ABOUT. KASI THAT MEANS KUNG MY COMMUNICATION AT THEY STILL HANG OUT PA RIN THAT MEANS MAY NA TITIRA PANG KUNTING FLAME JAN, AYAW LANG NILA PAREHONG MAG TAKE NG RISK KASI BAKA MAULIT LANG ULIT YONG DATI. PERO SA CASE MO WALA KA DAPAT IPAGSELOS, GALINGAN MO NA LANG MAG TOOTSIE ROLL, LICK TO THE RIGHT AND LICK TO THE LEFT OR BETTER YET, MAG THREE SOME NA LANG KAU LOL!!!
YOU CAN CALL ME CRACKENSIA, KAYA PO AKO NAG PADALA NG LIHAM SAYO KASI UMAASA PO AKUNG AKO AY INYONG MATUTULUNGAN SA AKING HINAGPIS SA BUHAY. IN LOVE PO KASI ANG LOLA NYO NGAYON. ANG KASO PO INVOLVE PO AKO SA LOVE TRIANGLE. ETO PO KASING LALAKI NA SINISIGAW NANG AKING PUSO EH KAIBIGAN PA RIN NYA ANG 1 WEEK NA EX GIRLFRIEND NYA. I KNOW RIGHT KALOKA DI HO BA 1 WEEK LANG SILA PERO I'M MAKING SUCH A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT. ALTHOUGH HINDI ALAM NG LALAKI NA NAAPEKTUHAN AKO KASI HINDI KO IPINAPAKITA. ANO HO BA ANG GAGAWIN KO.
DEAR CRACKENSIA,
EWWWYOO PARANG MANTIL... TO START OF I KNOW YOUR A SMART GIRL CRACKENSIA, PERO MY PAGKA OA KA AS IN OVER ACTING!!! YOU KNOW THE SAYING SOMETIMES LOVERS ARE BETTER OF AS FRIENDS, MAYBE KAYA SILANG DALAWA NAG HIWALAY DAHIL NA REALIZE NILANG HINDI SILA COMPATIBLE. ALTHOUGH, IT TAKES A WHILE BAGO ANG DALAWANG DATING NAGMAMAHALAN NA MAGING MAGKAIBIGAN KAGAD, ESPECIALLY KUNG MATAGAL NAGING SILA. PERO SA CASE MO NAMAN 1 WEEK LANG NAMAN NAGING SILA TAPOS UN KAYU NG DALAWA THEN WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT THEN! MAIINTINDIHAN KO PA KUNG NAGING MATAGAL SILA LIKE 3 YEARS SILA SA RELATION, THEN THAT YOU SHOULD WORRY ABOUT. KASI THAT MEANS KUNG MY COMMUNICATION AT THEY STILL HANG OUT PA RIN THAT MEANS MAY NA TITIRA PANG KUNTING FLAME JAN, AYAW LANG NILA PAREHONG MAG TAKE NG RISK KASI BAKA MAULIT LANG ULIT YONG DATI. PERO SA CASE MO WALA KA DAPAT IPAGSELOS, GALINGAN MO NA LANG MAG TOOTSIE ROLL, LICK TO THE RIGHT AND LICK TO THE LEFT OR BETTER YET, MAG THREE SOME NA LANG KAU LOL!!!
Chris Brown Vs. Bentong
Dear Aling Dionisya,
How are you? Yes i'm fine thank you!!! I'm quite deeply honored that i'm the first one to write you a letter. But that's beside the point, my problem is more important. To protect my identity for any stalkers in your site you can call me Jinky. I'm 20 years of age and i have a boyfriend name Bentong. Bentong and I been dating for over 2 years now. At first our relationship was as sweet as a honey. However, this few months ago things started to change, things haven't been the same its rough (hindi po sa kama) kundi po sa relationship namin. I thought Bentong was a nice, gentleman, romantic guy, but i was wrong as usual. Lately, his true colors is showing up his dark side. His turning into Chris Brown for no reason. He would get heated for no reason, at first i thought maybe its the time of the month pero lalaki sya. Aling Dionisya rumeregla ba ang mga lalaki? Lately, po lagi po kami nag aaway kasi po pinagseselosa nya si Richard, yong alaga ko pong GOLDFISH! Kesyo raw po binigyan ko ng oras at panahon si Richard. Pati pag tulog ko pinakikilaman nya, kesyo mas preferred ko raw pong katabi si Richard. Eh kasalanan ko po ba na sa side ko lang ang my plug. Aling Dionisya tulungan nu naman po ako ... super hirap ng problema ko?
Dear Jinky,
EWWWYOO PARANG MANTIL!!! Iha laki nga ng problema mo. Kasi ang laki ng sira ng ulo ng syota mo, kahit yata mental hospital tatangihan ipasok yan dun. Siguro nung bata yan hindi yan pinaiinom ng NESTLE MELK!!! You know i always tell my cheldren don't porget to drenk ur melk!!! Hayuf Mala Chris Brown madali lang yan bigyan mo ng microphone kakanta yan... Alam mo kung hindi mo na sya matiis eh di iwanan mo na. Total mukhang masaya ka naman kay Richard!!!
Aling Dionisya
How are you? Yes i'm fine thank you!!! I'm quite deeply honored that i'm the first one to write you a letter. But that's beside the point, my problem is more important. To protect my identity for any stalkers in your site you can call me Jinky. I'm 20 years of age and i have a boyfriend name Bentong. Bentong and I been dating for over 2 years now. At first our relationship was as sweet as a honey. However, this few months ago things started to change, things haven't been the same its rough (hindi po sa kama) kundi po sa relationship namin. I thought Bentong was a nice, gentleman, romantic guy, but i was wrong as usual. Lately, his true colors is showing up his dark side. His turning into Chris Brown for no reason. He would get heated for no reason, at first i thought maybe its the time of the month pero lalaki sya. Aling Dionisya rumeregla ba ang mga lalaki? Lately, po lagi po kami nag aaway kasi po pinagseselosa nya si Richard, yong alaga ko pong GOLDFISH! Kesyo raw po binigyan ko ng oras at panahon si Richard. Pati pag tulog ko pinakikilaman nya, kesyo mas preferred ko raw pong katabi si Richard. Eh kasalanan ko po ba na sa side ko lang ang my plug. Aling Dionisya tulungan nu naman po ako ... super hirap ng problema ko?
Dear Jinky,
EWWWYOO PARANG MANTIL!!! Iha laki nga ng problema mo. Kasi ang laki ng sira ng ulo ng syota mo, kahit yata mental hospital tatangihan ipasok yan dun. Siguro nung bata yan hindi yan pinaiinom ng NESTLE MELK!!! You know i always tell my cheldren don't porget to drenk ur melk!!! Hayuf Mala Chris Brown madali lang yan bigyan mo ng microphone kakanta yan... Alam mo kung hindi mo na sya matiis eh di iwanan mo na. Total mukhang masaya ka naman kay Richard!!!
Aling Dionisya
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