DON'T GIVE UP ON US....

Dear Aling Dionisya,

“When will the tears stop from falling? When will this place be filled with peace and quite again? When will happiness overcome such sadness? And where is that love that you promised?” Courtesty of facebook.

Ms. Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

EWWYO PARANG MANTIL!!! Such sorrow that you’re going through, perhaps or I’m going to assume that you’re married? I’m sure your parents or someone older than you once told you this that “ang pag aasawa hindi parang kanin na pag napaso iluluwa.” I think this saying is certainly not a good message to say to someone whose getting married or who just got married. Ang tamang sabihin dapat ay ang pag aasawa ay higit pa sa mag boyfriend or girlfriend dahil dapat mahalin mo siya kung ano siya at kung sino siya hindi mo dapat plano na baguhin kung sino sya at dapat maging handa ka sa mga bagay na matutuklasan mo pa sakanya. The reason why I’m telling you this is 85% of people marry other people not being open on changes that will happen and what they will find out. Remember it only takes a matter of second to say I LOVE YOU OR WILL YOU MARRY ME, but it takes more than your whole life knowing each other. But what I just said right now some may apply to you and some may not, however I just put that in for those who are thinking of getting married.
Alam mo anonymous being married is not a joke it’s a lifetime commitment and responsibility. It’s like you being imprisoned in each other’s arms for life without the possibility of parole. Your whole lifestyle that your so accustomed too will change. Your responsibility and role as a wife and a mother from cleaning the house, preparing food, cooking, washing dishes, managing the laundry, handling bills and finances. In addition, you also have to shift to the needs of your husband, accompanying him and even waiting for him till he arrives. Since, this is not the 50’s anymore I’m quite sure you’re a career woman so you also need to tend to that. And upon reading your shout out I think that your starting to have doubts, uncertainty and giving up if all of this is worth it. Each and every day you will unveil a lot of questions that will hinder your thoughts. But its OK don’t panic it’s’ a normal adjustment that most wives normally encounter during their first year of marriage.
To end this… Kaya nyo yang mag asawa pag usapan nyo COMMUNICATION has always been the Key for a success relationship. Just a little advice whatever is going on between you and your husband should just be kept between the two of you. As much as, possible try to avoid involving your friends or relatives on this type of matter. Because often, people try to judge because they only hear one side of the story and they don’t bother asking for the one. The less people involve the sooner your problem will be resolved!!!

THAT’S WHY FOR THOSE WHO ARE PLANNING ON GETTING MARRIED SOON ALL I CAN SAY IS THINK IT OVER AND OVER. DON’T RUSHED BEING MARRIED IS NOT A JOKE!!! DON’T PAY ATTENTION IF YOUR PARENTS ARE PRESSURING YOU ON GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE YOUR NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER, THAT’S THERE WAY OF SAYING YOU NEED TO MOVE OUT LOL!!! OR DON’T LET YOUR AGE BOTHER’S YOU OR THE YEARS THAT THE TWO OF YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER. REMEMBER FOLKS MARRIED LIFE AND BEING A BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS!!!

P.S. DON’T PORGET TO DRENK YOUR MELK!!!

ALING DIONISYA