He's Out Of My Life ...

Dear Aling Dionisya,

My boyfriend of five years recently left me without saying goodbye … All I can recall is we had our usual spat and next thing I know is his walking out the door saying he had enough. He can’t take the strain in our relationship anymore. I’m so confuse I have so many questions that are left an unanswered and the worst part of it all is I still care, love and still wants him back what should I do?

Broken Hearted Girl

Dear Broken Hearted Girl,

EWWWYO PARANG MANTIL … FIVE YEARS IS A LONG TIME TO BE TOGETHER THE ONLY THING MISSING IS MARRIAGE BUT THAT’S BESIDES THE POINT NOW! BREAKING UP IS VERY AGONIZING YOU HAVE MY EMPATHY MY DEAR. BUT NOTHING YOU DO NOW TO MEND YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS GOING TO WORK. IT’S PLAIN OBVIOUS THAT YOUR EX WANT’S SPACE FROM YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
WHAT I CAN TELL YOU IS MEN DO NEED TIME AND SOME DO COME BACK BUT NOT RIGHT AWAY. AT TIMES THEY HAVE TO LEAVE AND MISS YOU FIRST IN ORDER FOR THEM TO REALIZE YOUR WORTH. SOME EXES DO REUNITES AND SOME CHOOSES TO MOVE ON WITHOUT THE OTHER PERSON. ALLOW HIM TO HAVE TIME FOR HIMSELF THERE’S AN OLD SAYING DISTANCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER. I SUGGEST YOU STOP MESSAGING HIM NOR CALLING HIM. BY ASKING HIM QUESTIONS DOES NOTHING HE CAN GIVE YOU ANY BULLSHIT EXCUSE IN THE WORLD WHETHER IT’S THE TRUTH OR NOT AND YOU WILL COME ACROSS AS A NAGGING PERSON. THEREFORE, DON’T ASK HIM ANYTHING. I JUST DON’T SEE ANYTHING GOOD COMING OUT OF THIS IF YOU CONTINUE TO BE IN CONTACT WITH HIM. HE KNOWS HOW YOU FEELS HE DOES WHAT HE WANTS, HE GIVES YOU ATTENTION WHEN HE FEELS LIKE IT ETC. BEING TIRED IN THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT AN EXCUSE IT’S A SIGN THAT HE JUST ISN’T THAT INTO YOU. HE MAY CARE ABOUT YOU AS A PERSON, BUT HE IS PUTTING FORTH ALMOST NO EFFORT TO BE WITH YOU. CAN’T YOU SEE HE IS THROWING CRUMBS AND YOU ARE ACCEPTING THEM WHILE BEGGING FOR THE WHOLE CAKE. JUST FOR THE RECORD STAYING STATUS QOU YOU WILL NEVER GET THE WHOLE CAKE.
YOU SAID YOU WANT CLOSURE SWEETHEART THE BREAK UP IS YOUR CLOSURE!!! I SAY FUCK HIM AND FOCUS WHATS MORE IMPORTANT WHICH IS YOU!!! ALLOW YOURSELF TO GRIEVE, DON'T FORCE YOURSELF TO GET OVER SOMEONE. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL THE PAIN, CRY IF YOU MUST, WRITE ABOUT IT, LISTEN TO SAD SONGS. THEN ONE DAY YOU WILL FEEL TIRED FROM HURTING ALL OF THE TIME, THAT'S WHEN YOU CAN SAY YOUR READY TO MOVE FORWARD. DOING THIS WITHOUT CONTACT OF THE PERSON YOU LOVE IS BEST!!! TO THINK THAT ANYONE THAT WILL STILL SEE YOU, SLEEP WITH YOU, AND SPEND TIME WITH YOU KNOWING THAT THEY DON'T CARE FOR YOU AND KNOWING HOW YOU FEEL IS SELFISH. EVERYONE INCLUDING YOURSELF DESERVES MORE THAN THAT. REMEMBER YOU CAN'T FORCE LOVE OUT OF YOUR HEART SO DON'T EVEN TRY IT, THAT WILL CAUSE YOU MORE PAIN AND YOU WILL END UP IN DENIAL. YOU ARE HUMAN FOR LOVING SO LOVE YOURSELF. CASUAL DATING IS OKAY BUT I MUST WARN YOU IT MIGHT BACK FIRE AND THE END RESULT IS YOU WILL MISS THE PERSON YOU LOVE EVEN MORE. I SAY REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES BUT LEARN FROM THE BAD. DON'T YOU WANT ONE DAY TO BE TRULY HAPPY? LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO GIVE UP THE CHANCE OF A TRUE LOVE FOR YOURSELF. SOMEONE WILL SEE THIS, AND LOVE YOU JUST AS MUCH AS YOU ARE CAPABLE OF LOVING.

ALING DIONISYA